Where's the missing piece???

If you read this line, you are on my blog.

If you leave this blog before you have answered the question  - you will truly feel bad that you did that to me. Yes, even if you don't know me.

So, please don't be THAT person who leaves without a comment.... 

Because I DO want to know what YOU think?! You read this far, come on...

Do you think that  DAILY ROUTINES are compulsory to keep a household or a person sane/ effective??

If you HAVE the answer - please COMMENT NOW !

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I am a very organized person - that means my STUFF is organized.....my house....my shelves... but NOT my schedule!!

Having a tidy, uncluttered environment works for me - WONDERS !!! But that's me.

Organizing our activities and daily routines will affect all those around me ! But - it is somewhat chaotic trying to get my kids on bed same time every day

Some days dinner is ready at 6

.... other days at 7 or 8.

Some days I exercise

...and some days I don't!

Some days I take vitamins

...and some days I don't!

So - it is EXTREMELY difficult to keep track of what is happening around me!

I think that keeping ROUTINES - same time to bed each day, same old story each day - will help everyone to get to what we are suppose to do in a day ! And be GOOD CITIZENS of our own health and performances !

But - my FEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...is to become one of those old people one day who can't come visit because they have to have their "hair" done on Tuesdays...

or those people who yawn at a party because they usually go to bed at 10pm and now it is already 11pm - my goodness?!

or they can't go for coffee...because this time every day they do spinning....

or the kids are running havoc because the hostess is serving dinner at 8 pm and we "forced" ourselves into eating everyday at 6 pm??!!

WHAT IF THAT HAPPENS??

What if we loose our easy-going, whatever comes, whatever goes type of attitude and become one of "THOSE" people???

THAT is what stands between me and seriously implementing the routines in this house.

I started implementing ROUTINES and STRUCTURE - I think that is the missing piece???

But I am SOOOOOo AFRAID that will ruin things in the long run??!!

I am so worried I will "over-engineer" this household.

CAN you help me out??

Is it working for you??

Tell me about YOUR routines or lack thereof and how it affects you and your life and OTHERS around you?????

PLEASE, PLEASE dont leave without HELPING ME OUT !!

The rest of my life depends on this decision I take today.

And you will be so happy you helped . Thanks.

I need it.

I wish ......

....that this time my exercise routine would stick....

I started Monday with my friends.....
I got my trainers out  - they are fun and they are bright......
and should not be in the cupboard

 and I love the way you don't even feel them while walking the woods next to our neighborhood ...

...but oh my.....
is it easy to loose focus and slip back into old routines of too much time in front of the computer and the reality of too little exercise???

But hey, bloggers are not guilty of this - are they???.......
Would love to hear of anyone who has ever had THIS particular problem??!!

My idea is this time to not fall back after a few days ...but to THIS time really see it through untill I reap the rewards... I NEED to - not only for my own health ....but I owe it to my kids - to be a happy, healthy mom.


I WISH......

.....for more time with my oldest daughter...

I don't want her to become a statistic - the neglected MIDDLE CHILD

Having her room one floor above the rest of the bedrooms means that there are often times days gone by without anyone going into her room...

I lied awake the night before, thinking how I miss being with her and that one day I will realize that I did not spend enough time with her - and how that would be too late....

She deserves more and she is gonna get more !!

She is DARLING, she is FUN, she is BEAUTIFUL and she is most of all MINE !!!

Taking action the next evening, I decided to go up in her room and kiss her goodnight -
just like I used to go every night when she was younger -
before she became so independent and self-organised.

I was shocked when I realised that I had not been into her room for a while now....
She always comes to us - we hardly go to her

...sad to see that she had already fallen asleep, I was still glad that I went......

I saw a notebook lying on her desk - and how ironic when I opened it and on the first page it said (written some months ago already) :

" I wish I had more time with my mom..."

That made me SAD....
- sad for the time lost already
- sad for a thought expressed by my daugther which means there is an empty space somewhere...
despite all the time we DO spend together
- an empty space created by the busy-ness of our lives.....

but also GLAD...
- glad that I felt the same way before I read her little notebook....
and glad that I realised it today and not one day when it is too late to go back and make up for it...

Life is demanding and an oldest and a youngest have high demands...

A MIDDLE CHILD desires the same...but accepts more
ask the same...but doesn't always get the same

I had this IDEA of one day being my daughter's best friend......
REALITY is that there is never enough time to do all the things we want to do..
REALITY is that I often make excuses of things that need to take priority over her requests of time with me...
REALITY is that we all make mistakes and that it is overwhelming to juggle all the balls in the air at the same time
REALITY is that we do have a LOT of family time and it is still not enough....
and even the IDEA me and her had a few years ago to start a "Girlie Club"has given way to the REALITY that we never find the time to do all the things we had put on the list....
REALITY is that I do not want it to be this way, but it is...

THIS WAS NOT MY IDEA.....

She is so understanding
But she is craving time with me...
...and I do too...

it is FINDING the TIME.....

 but I am the one who has the power in hand to prioritize, to make time and to build the relationship as much as I can while I can!

I wish for more time in a day...
I am sure we all do...

but MY IDEA is to try and focus on more time with her..
she absolutely THRIVES when I do that

There could be nothing more rewarding than the feeling that you have had the best of times with your loved ones while you had them around
And nothing more regrettable than the feeling that you did not have enough time with your loved ones while you had them around

I am wondering if there are mothers out there who have had those experiences......

I wish to stick to my exercise routine...but MUCH MUCH more than that...
I wish for more time with my daughter

I WISH for this to happen

I HOPE it will...

I am going to try to make this wish come true !